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I too take my kids out for recess, no one else. Everyone goes outside. If someone misbehaves, they sit out for 5 min. for each offense (a checkmark is just a signal for mine to each offense). If they haven't finished their
work they sit out until it is completed.
At the beginning of the year, we go over rules and consequences. I too let mine have an input. We do role play on behavior and rules. We write about rules, discuss rules and "why" we have them. I also tell them that I don't treat everyone "equally" but I do treat them "fairly". I go on to explain. We all have differences. Some are

great readers, others struggle. Some are great at math, some are not. Some do better at fractions and others at adding, etc. Some of us need a little help on things now and then (actually we all do!!) Some of us have 10 spelling words and some of us 20. Even though there are differences and everyone's work may not equal the other person's, it is fair because that is what they need. I give an example: If two kids are sick and go to the doctor, the doctor will give them a prescription for what they need, not the same as someone else just because they are both 8 year old kids. They can understand that! Anyway, some kids just don't care and won't get their work done "just becuz!" Then, those kids will miss out on something else to get their work done. That is helping establish a good work ethic young!!!!! I can't think of one time (honestly!!) that any student said, that isn't fair because I have 15 words and she has 8. That is because we work on having a good working relationship with eachother every day! You have to discuss things with your students, not just say "because I said so". They do need a reasoning behind that...to use some other posters examples: you played during math, so now you do math at recess. That is a FAIR consequence!

I think you should set rules and consequences, discuss them and follow through! You must be consistent! If you say that you get one warning and then time out, then by golly that is what you do! It is important that children start to understand at a young age that it isn't always about what we "want"!