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By Al

Hi! Been a while since I've been here. The situation you talk about- Billy throwing a rock- would absolutly have been "below the bottom line" and deserved a consequnce. does the consequence have to be detention however?
No. It could be reasearching about injuries, or helping to clear the playground of rocks, or educating younger kids about the dangers. If I could billy throwing a rock... he would be confronted.
I would ask him what happened. If he responds with guilt and knows he did something wrong- I would ask him "Could you have done worse?" This stablizes their identity and lifts them up,

they are then responsive to whatever consequences are set forth.

If he is defient, I make it clear that i do not respond to being talked to that way. I model how he can talk to me. I then may make him join me, or sit out until he can talk to me correctly. This may be seen as dentention, but my definition of "detention" is time served after school, hardly any followup, and not related to the "crime".

Kids need consequences for unsafe behaviors, either to themselves or others. Where the theories I propose come in are behaviors such as talking, or sharpening a pencil. does it really matter and warrent their time after school? do they really stop? Sorry if I confused anyone.