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I wonder why.
By Grace

Hi Lea,
Sorry to hear about the trouble you are having.
I just wonder how the perfect team became the team from hell.This behaviour seems strange. my first reaction to reading your message was that there must be something
wrong with this man. Something must have happened to change his whole outlook. If you and your partner have done some real soul searching and honestly can't think of a reason, then perhaps there is something else that you don't know about.
Here are a few possibilities
Peer pressure- even teachers can be swayed by this. Perhaps the rest of your hallway got to him in some way

because people can be jealous of a good team.
Lies- could someone have lied about either of you or something you "said."
Bad health- is he fit and healthy or could he have something wrong that you don't know about or perhaps a relative is ill?
Worries- Could he be worried about a problem at home, money or a relationship?
Jealousy- Could he have a jealous partner who does not like him being so friendly with two women and has maybe given him an ultimatum? Or could he be jealous of the female friendship you have with your partner? Did you do something in or out of school without him?
Frustration- has he been turned down for a new post or for promotion of some sort?
I'm sure there could be other reasons, but he sounds like he is not happy and it is more likely from the sudden change in his attitude that it is himself he is not happy with and not you.
You could speak to him informally or if you are frightened of being snubbed, write him a short note, saying that you are sorry if you have done anything wrong, but that you really miss his input and would love to be on easy terms again. You have one bonus. Your partner is AWESOME. Sometimes you just have to admit defeat and realise that things change, close that chapter and move on.
I hope things improve for you. It may just be the old Mars /Venus thing. Men are definitely a different breed(no offence guys!)
Grace