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Daughter vs. teacher
By Colleague

Nicole, first, don't, if you can, allow yourself to become discouraged by any remarks you may receive concerning your post. Each person that replies to a particular thread is from a different mind set than any one else
(NO DISRESPECT TO ANYONE INTENDED). Why? Because we are all influenced by our up-bringing, social standing, peers, fears and so many other aspects that if someone says they know EXACTLY how you feel or that they TOTALLY understand -- it's simply not possible -- why? Because no one, noT one single person will ever feel EXACTLY the same way as any other person no matter what the circumstance

is....all another can do is to "imagine" how YOU may be feeling -- whether that is based upon their own personal experience or how they "think" they would deal with a situation. The fact is, You are You and NO ONE can feel how YOU do about this or any concern you may have.

Now that I've said that, I will tell you that your daughter is much too young to stand up for what is right or wrong when it comes to dealing with someone outside of her family unit. She would most likely feel far too intimidated to do so.
For a teacher of your daughter's grade level to deduct 25 pts. for a missing period is beyond the realm of reality. This teacher seems to be on a power trip. I don't know, I could be completely off here, but I would NEVER take points off for a missing period at the grade level you mentioned unless the quiz was ONLY based upon punctuation, however I would be reluctant to even give a quiz based solely on punctuation at this age/grade level.

It is a difficult circumstance that you have found yourself in, yet you need to keep priorties in line. What is your priority? Is it your daughter or how this other teacher may react? I would bet you'd say it's your daughter. In that case, don't settle for this ridiculous point reduction. Be the kind of mom that you know you are -- don't be the kind of parent that other's expect because you are also a teacher -- and one in your daughter's school. Ask yourself what you would do if you were'nt a teacher in this school.
I bet the answer will be far easier for you to come to terms with if you imagine yourself in a place beyond a teacher in this school.

Stand behind your daughter -- if you don't, who will? Her father, yes, Of course, but will it not be realized that you feel as he does despite the fact that he may be the one to complain? I know it was mentioned that he do the "dirty deed" (not the posters words -- mine, every one--) It won't matter in the end. You will be looked at the same as he. So, don't put it all on his shoulders even if he is willing to bear the burden -- your peers will most likely assume that you are behind his inquisition anyway.

You never know, perhaps there are other parents who are angry about this very issue but are not the type of parent(s) to do anything about it. You would be doing their children a great justice as well as your daughter.

I hope I have been able to help you with this and I certainly hope I haven't offended any one in any way what-so-ever!!!!

BEST OF LUCK!