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Condolences...
By LindaR

Karin,
Thank you for taking the time to share your loss with us...I can honestly say that I do care about what you are experiencing right now. My prayer for you is that the love you and your husband shared will be your
strength at this time.

Personally, I have not had to deal with the same kind of grief and to face my colleagues and students soon after burying a loved one. I do know, though, of a colleague who returned to work soon after her husband died. I was very surprised to see her back so soon, but she felt that going back to work would help keep her mind off her grief.

The remainder

of her year did not go well. She had a very rough class of 6th graders who had mostly had zero empathy, and their behavior seemed to worsen. I felt it was due to her emotions being weakened by the loss of her husband and not taking the time to work through her grief. She was let go at the end of the year by our principal, who also had zero empathy.

I know that we all deal with death of loved ones differently, and the support system we have surrounding us makes all the difference in how we face our present life and responsibilities. Of course, a person's faith in God's care and provision is a major part of the strength s/he can draw from.

I think that your feelings of being "very lost right now and unsure" and your "fear of falling apart" at school says a lot about your readiness to continue with your daily routine so soon after burying your husband.

I want to encourage you to take some more time for yourself....you have a lot to work through emotionally, and it's important for you to be a place of "safety" (your home) when feelings and memories begin to surface.

Know that we all care and are praying for you!

LindaR