my 9 year old has always had this problem

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my 9 year old has always had this problem
By Amarykay00

My daughter at about 1 1/2 started getting constipation and would not move her bowels. I took her to her pediatrician who sent us to the gastroenterologist. I had to start with manual manipulation (lubricated gloved finger),
then laxatives. At one point she didn't go for 2 weeks and the doctors weren't very concerned about that! I thought she would die holding all those toxins in her. I insisted they do something and they started test after test, even a biopsy. Nothing was ever found. One thing that stood out to me was that she stopped gaining weight at about 18 months. The child was born 9 lbs. and

3 oz. She is now 50 lbs. and almost 10. She was either not on the "curve" for her weight or just barely. Her height was fine. After many, many tests the doctor concluded it would take her up to a year to get the feeling back in her sphincter to realize when she needed to go. We were at the end of suggestions. We went to 2 other gastroenterologists and one even treated me like I wasn't feeding her. I was so damn mad and hurt! Well, she will be 10 in Feb '08 and she poops in her pants still. Sometimes dry and sometimes more soft and wet. I started back to the gastroenterologist 3 weeks ago. She put her on laxatives and now it is worse! Poops all the time in her panties and sits in it!!! I don't understand. Sometimes I get very angry and I yell at her over it which I know is not good. I wish I'd never see any more poop the rest of my life! No dog, no cat, not even a goldfish! It is very hard on me and my husband. We have spend so much in medical expenses and gotten nowhere.
After tonight's incident in which my son went to take a shower and there were two pair of nasty panties filled with poop in the shower floor, I had a talk with her. I did and have been making her wash her panties herself but that hasn't worked. Tonight when I asked her if she can feel that she has to go she said yes. When I asked her why she doesn't she said she is busy watching tv or playing so she just does it in her pants !!! I asked her why she would want to smell, sit in it, have people smell her, and get mommy and daddy so upset and angry. Her reply was, "everybody has their eye on me and stuff like that" also stop paying attention to Ryan and pay more attention to me. Sounds psychological but in the past she has told me she doesn't know when she is going. I'm at the end of my rope here. She's been tested for celiac, inflamatory bowel disease and a host of others. Does anyone have any insight I may be overlooking?