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By M.

I think it's clear that they are doing this for attention, and I do advise talking to them in private and/or getting them out of the room. Now, I don't want people to misinterpret what I mean by sending them out of the room,
so let me explain. I think it's neccessary that students are allowed to talk about their problems ASAP. I also think that out of respect for the person crying, the one crying should leave the room. It can be very embarrassing if they are seen by their classmates crying. If they are crying because of bullying/teasing, often times the situation gets worse (more teasing and bullying) when

the student is seen crying. So I feel that to spare the feelings of the child who is crying, he or she needs to leave the room. However, I don't think that you should ship him/her out of the room alone! It's always nice if you can go out in the hall and say a few things to the student. If you have someone watching your class, then you could stay longer, but for the most part it's hard to stay even longer than a minute or two when you have no one watching your class. That's why when you get into the hall, you can ask the student if he or she would like to talk to the principal, guidance counselor, or a close friend. Sometimes that might help. I would also suggest sending them to the bathroom to gain compsure as someone also suggested. Perhaps you could also ask the student if he or she would like to talk to you some other time (before school, after school, during recess, etc.) where they can tell you more about the incident. You could also suggest that the student write you note about the incident. That may allow the student to get his or her feelings out on paper, and also allow them to communicate to you. If you have time, you could always write a letter back to them. I think that would very sweet, and I really think the students would enjoy hearing from you. Even though the students are probably doing this for attention, I think it's needed that the situation is handled when a way where the student can talk about whatever it is that they are upset about, etc. I don't believe in letting the student cry without talking them whatsoever. Sometimes a student is not comfortable talking about it, so I always let them know that I am always there if they want to talk, that they are free to talk to a counselor, and that if they need anything or if there is anything I can do, to let me know.